Duct Tape Needed

Question: Dear Cape Fear Family Law: I am supposed to co-parent with my ex, but he is impossible. He constantly tells the children things they should not know – how much I receive in child support, that I have a new boyfriend, or things about our marriage that are in...
November 4, 2014
Duct Tape Needed

Question:

Dear Cape Fear Family Law:

I am supposed to co-parent with my ex, but he is impossible.  He constantly tells the children things they should not know – how much I receive in child support, that I have a new boyfriend, or things about our marriage that are in the past.  How do you parent with someone that hates you?  Can the court help me shut him up?

-Duct Tape Needed

Answer:

Dear Duct Tape Needed:

It is amazingly difficult to co-parent with someone that is involving the children in disputes they have with you. I hope you have enrolled your children in counseling so they can learn to cope and handle his negative behavior.  Court may be an option, if you need the court to order him to participate in counseling, etc. However, sometimes we just have to cope with negative parenting, try to parallel parent instead of co-parenting, and get counseling advice. Talk to an attorney about your options and stay positive.

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Janet Gemmell
Practicing law for over 20 years may have caused Janet some gray hairs, but she remains young at heart, probably because she loves what she does. Janet's focus is to work with clients building new lives after relationship turmoil and although it is hard work, she finds it utterly rewarding. Such work and experiences gives Janet a ton of insight and along with her legal knowledge (afterall she is a Board Certified Family Law Specialist) she is able to get to the heart of any legal matter quickly in order to start helping clients find resolutions and to get their lives back on track.

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