Need some money!!

Question: Dear Cape Fear Family Law: I left my husband last week and moved into an apartment. I paid for it by taking ½ of the funds that were in our bank account
September 4, 2014
Need Some Money

Question:

Dear Cape Fear Family Law:

I left my husband last week and moved into an apartment.  I paid for it by taking ½ of the funds that were in our bank account, but my husband moved the remaining money.  The funds I took are down to less than $3,000.00 and I will not be able to live for long on that amount.  I work, but only part-time.  How can I get my husband to pay support and help me live?  He won’t give me any money!

-Need some money!!

Answer:

Dear Need some money!!:

Alimony may be an option for you, however there are a number of factors.  First you must be a dependent spouse, earning less than your husband.  Next, the length of the marriage is a factor.  Finally, if you are dating a new man, that is likely to be adultery.  Adultery is a bar to alimony unless your husband is also committing adultery.  There are other factors so I suggest that you see an attorney immediately so that they can help you negotiate or file a lawsuit to ensure you get funds before your situation becomes dire or desperate.  Best of luck!

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Janet Gemmell
Practicing law for over 20 years may have caused Janet some gray hairs, but she remains young at heart, probably because she loves what she does. Janet's focus is to work with clients building new lives after relationship turmoil and although it is hard work, she finds it utterly rewarding. Such work and experiences gives Janet a ton of insight and along with her legal knowledge (afterall she is a Board Certified Family Law Specialist) she is able to get to the heart of any legal matter quickly in order to start helping clients find resolutions and to get their lives back on track.

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