Wives now get unearned benefits … Husband’s too!

October was not only the month for Halloween and Addams Family reruns, but also for new changes to North Carolina laws. I love thinking of the Addams Family as it parodies traditional family roles and makes me remember why I love all the quirky things about my family...
November 4, 2019
Wives now get unearned benefits … Husband’s too!

October was not only the month for Halloween and Addams Family reruns, but also for new changes to North Carolina laws. I love thinking of the Addams Family as it parodies traditional family roles and makes me remember why I love all the quirky things about my family and my clients’ families. I bet you can remember a funny scene from an Addams Family episode or movie right now without even trying.

October 1, 2019 saw some changes to the North Carolina laws regarding equitable distribution, specifically with regards to pensions. For this blog, N.C.G.S. §50-20.1(h) is amended so that the division of benefits applies to all vested and non-vested pension and retirement benefits. It went on to further define the benefits to include executive benefit plans, church plans, charitable organization plans, and IRAs. Traditional 401(k) and 403(b) as well as 457 accounts are still divisible.

https://www.ncleg.gov/EnactedLegislation/Statutes/PDF/BySection/Chapter_50/GS_50-20.1.pdf

Non-vested benefits were not divided

Generally non-vested benefits were not divided because neither party actually owned the benefits. When something is not vested, there is a good argument that the ownership interest has not yet been created. For example, if you have a stock option that you cannot exercise until you have worked at your company for six (6) years, and it is only year three (3) of employment when you separate, then that option has in the past not been divided. It technically did not exist, it was more of a hope or wish that it would exist if everything went correct, the stars aligned, and you kept working at the same company.

This is new territory

However the winds are a changing. There are many, many different types of non-vested benefits which only vest with more work, bonus structures, or other actions which would happen after date of separation. Let’s examine for a moment how this might work. For example, both vested and non-vested stock options are often forms of executive benefits plans. If you are only married for 3 years, why should your spouse be entitled to benefits not accrued or earned on the date of separation? This is new territory folks. The argument on the other side is why should the spouse not be entitled to receive the three (3) years of value when/if they vest? Another good question.

Let’s be honest, it is also ripe for more costs to the client which they don’t need since attorney fees already eat away their estate. It is law changes like this that create so much expense for clients and increase attorney fees. Now a client will almost always need to hire an expert to value the interest that is non-vested. And just how do we value the marital interest of a non-vested stock option that may not be real, owned, or otherwise have value for years to come? Better yet, what about the malpractice of not valuing it when it becomes worth tens of thousands on the strike date?

New laws cost spouses more money for divorce

Separation agreements between spouses becomes twice as important

And even more, the language attorneys must draft into separation agreements between spouses becomes twice as important. Ensuring that the non-vested benefits may be obtained by the spouse when/if they become vested is a drafting nightmare of Addams Family proportions, without the humor that Fester Addams brings to the table.

So what does that mean for you?

It means you must request and provide all non-vested benefits. This is vitally important in cases with non-vested retirement or pension plans, executive or unusual compensation plans, structured bonuses, and if paid commissions.

If you are not scared, well then you are either a seasoned divorce professional waiting for a new law to come out or (the more likely option) you have no idea what any of this means, do not own non-vested benefits, and wonder why I cannot find more child support or alimony things to write about! Touché … and in the memorable words of Wednesday Addams, “You might find a nice girl to be miserable with.”

How to Preserve Digital Evidence So a NC Judge Will Actually Use It

How to Preserve Digital Evidence So a NC Judge Will Actually Use It

North Carolina trial judges are cautious about digital evidence. Screenshots can be fabricated, modified, or taken out of context. To get digital evidence admitted under North Carolina Rule of Evidence 901 (Authentication), you must establish its authenticity, completeness, and chain of custody.

Raw Screenshot vs. Forensic Capture

Steps for Lawful, Admissible Digital Evidence Preservation

  1. Capture Complete Screenshots with Context: Do not crop out battery bars, network indicators, contact names, dates, or timestamps. Capture the full conversation thread leading up to and following the key statement.
  2. Export Native Files and Metadata: Where possible, export thread logs directly to PDF or native format (e.g., .eml files for email, .vcf or full carrier logs for SMS). Ensure EXIF metadata (embedded time, location, and device data) remains intact on digital photos.
  3. Obtain Certified Carrier Records: Request official call detail records and text message transmission logs from cellular service providers via subpoena or formal discovery requests.
  4. Maintain a Detailed Evidence Log: Record the date, time, device used, and method of capture for every piece of digital evidence preserved.

Digital Capture Methods Matrix: Legality & Admissibility in NC

The following matrix summarizes common methods of capturing digital evidence in North Carolina family law proceedings:

Frequently Asked Questions About Digital Evidence in NC Divorce

Is it legal to screenshot my spouse’s texts in NC?

Yes, it is entirely legal to screenshot text messages sent directly to your device or sent within a group thread that includes you. Because you are a party to the communication, you have lawful access to the messages. To ensure admissibility in court, capture complete conversation threads that display the sender’s phone number or contact header, alongside full date and time stamps.

Can I use Life360 data in a NC custody case?

Yes, Life360 or Apple Find My location data can be used in North Carolina custody cases if the account was established mutually and you accessed the location data legally through your own authorized user profile. Location logs can help corroborate or refute claims regarding travel times, missed custody handoffs, or presence at unapproved locations. However, if you secretly log into your spouse’s private account after separation to track them, that data becomes inadmissible and exposes you to legal sanctions.

Is Ring camera footage admissible in NC family court?

Yes, Ring camera and video doorbell footage is routinely admitted in North Carolina family court to document custody exchanges, property damage, or domestic disturbances. Because outdoor entryways and driveways do not carry an expectation of privacy, footage captured by property-mounted cameras is lawful. To introduce Ring footage in trial, you must provide the raw video file, preserve the embedded metadata, and verify the time and date of the recording.

What happens if I put spyware on my spouse’s phone in NC?

Installing spyware, keyloggers, or hidden tracking software on a spouse’s phone is a crime in North Carolina under the NC Wiretap Act (N.C.G.S. § 15A-287) and Computer Trespass laws (N.C.G.S. § 14-458), as well as federal wiretap statutes. Any evidence obtained through spyware is strictly inadmissible in family court. Furthermore, the spouse who installed the spyware faces potential felony charges, mandatory payment of opposing attorney fees, and severe loss of credibility with the judge in custody and financial rulings.

How do I prove digital evidence is authentic in a North Carolina court?

Under North Carolina Rule of Evidence 901, you prove digital evidence is authentic by demonstrating that the evidence is what you claim it to be. This requires showing a clear chain of custody, providing unedited files containing native metadata, cross-referencing screenshots with official cellular carrier billing statements, or presenting witness testimony from the individual who captured or received the transmission.

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Janet Gemmell
Practicing law for over 20 years may have caused Janet some gray hairs, but she remains young at heart, probably because she loves what she does. Janet's focus is to work with clients building new lives after relationship turmoil and although it is hard work, she finds it utterly rewarding. Such work and experiences gives Janet a ton of insight and along with her legal knowledge (afterall she is a Board Certified Family Law Specialist) she is able to get to the heart of any legal matter quickly in order to start helping clients find resolutions and to get their lives back on track.

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