Need a license to become a parent?

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February 25, 2020
Need a license to become a parent?
Imagine the Federal Bureau for Parental Licensing (FBPL). If a person had to apply for a license from the FBPL what would the testing look like? Would you have to be physically and mentally healthy? Maybe an ink block test? The MIIP-2 administered? Genetic testing? Would marriage or long-term committed relationship be a pre-requisite?

Well in the Paynich v. Vestal reported case out of the North Carolina Court of Appeals on January 7, 2020, I bet the court was wishing there was a FBPL had been in place. The basic facts of the case were that Husband and Wife were married for fifteen (15) years and separated almost immediately after their daughter was born. To put it simply, mom appears to have mental health issues and was harmful to the child. The court found that the case is a high conflict custody case, which is a special designation for difficult cases or to put it more accurately, for difficult or poorly behaved parents.

Dad granted custody and Mom was ordered to have supervised custody in 2015. In 2016 the parties went back to court and Mom was granted some unsupervised visitation. Back to court again in 2018 and Dad still granted custody, but mom granted both supervised and unsupervised visitation.

 

Supervised Visitation

 

This was a big deal because before a court can order supervised visitation, the other side must prove that the parent is unfit or that visitation rights are not in the best interests of the child. You see, supervised visitation is a limitation so severe that it is considered a deprivation of be unfit before supervision can be ordered.

So how can the court order both supervised and unsupervised visitation? Can a parent be fit for some unsupervised visitation and some supervised visitation? How does that even work?

First, what was mom doing that made supervision necessary anyway? The court found that the minor child was more aggressive and defiant after visits. She soiled her pants more often and became aggressive in play. Mom vandalized Dad’s truck during an exchange, caused a scene in the child’s classroom with the child there, and Mom was upset in the school pick up line in the presence of the minor child. Mom also hid the minor child from Dad during an exchange, causing him to go rushing between two locations seeking the child. Through all of this, Mom could not see how her behavior harmed the minor child.

So yes, the court can order both if a structured schedule specifically works for the child. Do you need a structured visitation schedule with supervision of the child and the other parent? Keep records on a calendar of the negative things going on, ensure the child is in counseling, and get to an attorney right away.

How to Preserve Digital Evidence So a NC Judge Will Actually Use It

How to Preserve Digital Evidence So a NC Judge Will Actually Use It

North Carolina trial judges are cautious about digital evidence. Screenshots can be fabricated, modified, or taken out of context. To get digital evidence admitted under North Carolina Rule of Evidence 901 (Authentication), you must establish its authenticity, completeness, and chain of custody.

Raw Screenshot vs. Forensic Capture

Steps for Lawful, Admissible Digital Evidence Preservation

  1. Capture Complete Screenshots with Context: Do not crop out battery bars, network indicators, contact names, dates, or timestamps. Capture the full conversation thread leading up to and following the key statement.
  2. Export Native Files and Metadata: Where possible, export thread logs directly to PDF or native format (e.g., .eml files for email, .vcf or full carrier logs for SMS). Ensure EXIF metadata (embedded time, location, and device data) remains intact on digital photos.
  3. Obtain Certified Carrier Records: Request official call detail records and text message transmission logs from cellular service providers via subpoena or formal discovery requests.
  4. Maintain a Detailed Evidence Log: Record the date, time, device used, and method of capture for every piece of digital evidence preserved.

Digital Capture Methods Matrix: Legality & Admissibility in NC

The following matrix summarizes common methods of capturing digital evidence in North Carolina family law proceedings:

Frequently Asked Questions About Digital Evidence in NC Divorce

Is it legal to screenshot my spouse’s texts in NC?

Yes, it is entirely legal to screenshot text messages sent directly to your device or sent within a group thread that includes you. Because you are a party to the communication, you have lawful access to the messages. To ensure admissibility in court, capture complete conversation threads that display the sender’s phone number or contact header, alongside full date and time stamps.

Can I use Life360 data in a NC custody case?

Yes, Life360 or Apple Find My location data can be used in North Carolina custody cases if the account was established mutually and you accessed the location data legally through your own authorized user profile. Location logs can help corroborate or refute claims regarding travel times, missed custody handoffs, or presence at unapproved locations. However, if you secretly log into your spouse’s private account after separation to track them, that data becomes inadmissible and exposes you to legal sanctions.

Is Ring camera footage admissible in NC family court?

Yes, Ring camera and video doorbell footage is routinely admitted in North Carolina family court to document custody exchanges, property damage, or domestic disturbances. Because outdoor entryways and driveways do not carry an expectation of privacy, footage captured by property-mounted cameras is lawful. To introduce Ring footage in trial, you must provide the raw video file, preserve the embedded metadata, and verify the time and date of the recording.

What happens if I put spyware on my spouse’s phone in NC?

Installing spyware, keyloggers, or hidden tracking software on a spouse’s phone is a crime in North Carolina under the NC Wiretap Act (N.C.G.S. § 15A-287) and Computer Trespass laws (N.C.G.S. § 14-458), as well as federal wiretap statutes. Any evidence obtained through spyware is strictly inadmissible in family court. Furthermore, the spouse who installed the spyware faces potential felony charges, mandatory payment of opposing attorney fees, and severe loss of credibility with the judge in custody and financial rulings.

How do I prove digital evidence is authentic in a North Carolina court?

Under North Carolina Rule of Evidence 901, you prove digital evidence is authentic by demonstrating that the evidence is what you claim it to be. This requires showing a clear chain of custody, providing unedited files containing native metadata, cross-referencing screenshots with official cellular carrier billing statements, or presenting witness testimony from the individual who captured or received the transmission.

Take Control of Your Digital Strategy Today

Navigating digital evidence in a divorce or custody dispute requires technical precision and experienced legal counsel. One wrong move can turn valuable evidence into a legal liability.

Protect your rights and secure your family’s future with our actionable digital evidence resources:

  • Download the Homewrecker Evidence Guide
  • Learn exactly how to audit your digital privacy, disconnect shared family accounts safely, and archive text messages for your legal team without violating state or federal privacy statutes.

Ready to discuss your case directly with an expert? Schedule a Confidential Consultation with Board-Certified Family Law Specialist Janet L. Gemmell at Cape Fear Family Law Today.

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Janet Gemmell
Practicing law for over 20 years may have caused Janet some gray hairs, but she remains young at heart, probably because she loves what she does. Janet's focus is to work with clients building new lives after relationship turmoil and although it is hard work, she finds it utterly rewarding. Such work and experiences gives Janet a ton of insight and along with her legal knowledge (afterall she is a Board Certified Family Law Specialist) she is able to get to the heart of any legal matter quickly in order to start helping clients find resolutions and to get their lives back on track.

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