Navigating the rough waters of the American court system: A family court perspective

Why does the American court system have to be so complicated and intimidating to the average person...
May 8, 2020
Navigating the rough waters of the American court system
Why does the American court system have to be so complicated and intimidating to the average person? We hear on the news that a law has been declared unconstitutional, but WHO determined that and WHO does that decision apply to? Was it the court of appeals? Of North Carolina or the United States? You almost need a flow chart to figure it all out. We can break it down though. I’ve listed a couple questions and answers below:

What is the structure like?

State CourtFederal Court
1-District Court/”Trial Court”1-District Court
2-Court of Appeals2-Court of Appeals
3-Supreme Court3-Supreme Court (SCOTUS)

Why is it set up like this?

The reason we have a 3-tier system is to have checks and balances on our judicial system. We don’t want one disgruntled judge making a final determination that can never be reviewed by anyone else. And we don’t want legislatures making laws willy nilly either. If you think the decision or the law is erroneous, you can appeal it to the next tier.• What do federal courts do?
Federal courts hear cases about state and federal laws that are challenged based on whether they are unconstitutional. Federal courts interpret the U.S. Constitution and decide whether or not the laws are in line with it. Federal courts hear other types of cases involving federal laws and regulations too, but constitutional work is the majority of what they do. I am going to focus more on state courts because that’s where I practice.

What do state courts do?

State courts hear different types of cases than federal courts. State courts will review a variety of issues and cases. For family law, if you don’t like the decision the judge made in district court, you have to show an “abuse of discretion” on the part of the trial judge to have an appeals court overturn it. See, judges have a broad range of discretion to determine what they think is in the best interest of the child or if a spouse should get an unequal distribution of property. The NC Court of Appeals does not want to be reviewing every decision just because someone doesn’t like it or disagrees with it. There has to be such a lack of competent evidence presented, that the trial judge could not have reasonably come to the conclusion that is under scrutiny.

How could this apply to you?

For example, let’s say you’re dad in a custody case. You have had custody of your daughter and mom is trying to modify the custody order to get custody of her. At the trial, there is uncontroverted evidence that your child does well in school. She has As and Bs and her report cards were admitted into evidence. There is no evidence presented about the relative abilities of the parents to assist in her education. You both have a college degree and work full time. However, the trial court (Judge Joe) changes custody from dad to mom for the sole reason that mom is more suited than dad to help her with her school work. If there was no competent evidence to suggest this finding and Judge Joe came up with it in his own brain based on a mere assumption, that could be an abuse of discretion. Do things like this really happen? Sometimes, yes. However, it’s rare that you actually have a decision that is appealable. I would venture to say maybe 15% of the time.

What would you do next in the above example?

You could appeal Judge Joe’s decision to the NC Court of Appeals. An appeals attorney would have to get a copy of the record, write a brief, and go to Raleigh and argue why there was an abuse of discretion. The court of appeals has 3 options:

  1. Affirm and uphold Judge Joe’s decision (you lose dad!)If the NC Court of Appeals affirms and upholds Judge Joe’s decision, the ruling stands unless you appeal it to the NC Supreme Court. It is rarer for a custody case to get to the NC Supreme Court, mostly because judges have SO much discretion as to the best interest of the child and the Supreme court can “deny certiorari” which means they decline to hear it. Then you are just stuck with the bad ruling. Appeals can cost a lot of money too, so it’s important to make sure you have a good case for it.
  2. Overturn Judge Joe’s decision (you win dad!)The modification is overturned and the old custody order goes back into place, meaning custody is back with you, dad.
  3. Remand it back to Judge Joe (you….? see below)If the case is “remanded” or “sent back” to the trial court/district court for them to make different findings, the judge might have to hear new evidence or just make new findings. This doesn’t mean Judge Joe has to change custody back to dad. It just means he at least has to come up with different reasons for why mom should have custody, or if he cannot find those reasons, then he may change custody back to dad.

What’s the bottom line?

Lots of people want to appeal when they don’t like the decision. But not everyone can and not everyone should. You have to have the right type of case. You have to start going up the chain, and at any point it can get pushed back down the chain. Your outcome may not be favorable and it may take several years to get there. It’s a roller coaster ride. Take your Dramamine before you hop on board.

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