Navigating the rough waters of the American court system: A family court perspective

Why does the American court system have to be so complicated and intimidating to the average person...
May 8, 2020
Navigating the rough waters of the American court system
Why does the American court system have to be so complicated and intimidating to the average person? We hear on the news that a law has been declared unconstitutional, but WHO determined that and WHO does that decision apply to? Was it the court of appeals? Of North Carolina or the United States? You almost need a flow chart to figure it all out. We can break it down though. I’ve listed a couple questions and answers below:

What is the structure like?

State CourtFederal Court
1-District Court/”Trial Court”1-District Court
2-Court of Appeals2-Court of Appeals
3-Supreme Court3-Supreme Court (SCOTUS)

Why is it set up like this?

The reason we have a 3-tier system is to have checks and balances on our judicial system. We don’t want one disgruntled judge making a final determination that can never be reviewed by anyone else. And we don’t want legislatures making laws willy nilly either. If you think the decision or the law is erroneous, you can appeal it to the next tier.• What do federal courts do?
Federal courts hear cases about state and federal laws that are challenged based on whether they are unconstitutional. Federal courts interpret the U.S. Constitution and decide whether or not the laws are in line with it. Federal courts hear other types of cases involving federal laws and regulations too, but constitutional work is the majority of what they do. I am going to focus more on state courts because that’s where I practice.

What do state courts do?

State courts hear different types of cases than federal courts. State courts will review a variety of issues and cases. For family law, if you don’t like the decision the judge made in district court, you have to show an “abuse of discretion” on the part of the trial judge to have an appeals court overturn it. See, judges have a broad range of discretion to determine what they think is in the best interest of the child or if a spouse should get an unequal distribution of property. The NC Court of Appeals does not want to be reviewing every decision just because someone doesn’t like it or disagrees with it. There has to be such a lack of competent evidence presented, that the trial judge could not have reasonably come to the conclusion that is under scrutiny.

How could this apply to you?

For example, let’s say you’re dad in a custody case. You have had custody of your daughter and mom is trying to modify the custody order to get custody of her. At the trial, there is uncontroverted evidence that your child does well in school. She has As and Bs and her report cards were admitted into evidence. There is no evidence presented about the relative abilities of the parents to assist in her education. You both have a college degree and work full time. However, the trial court (Judge Joe) changes custody from dad to mom for the sole reason that mom is more suited than dad to help her with her school work. If there was no competent evidence to suggest this finding and Judge Joe came up with it in his own brain based on a mere assumption, that could be an abuse of discretion. Do things like this really happen? Sometimes, yes. However, it’s rare that you actually have a decision that is appealable. I would venture to say maybe 15% of the time.

What would you do next in the above example?

You could appeal Judge Joe’s decision to the NC Court of Appeals. An appeals attorney would have to get a copy of the record, write a brief, and go to Raleigh and argue why there was an abuse of discretion. The court of appeals has 3 options:

  1. Affirm and uphold Judge Joe’s decision (you lose dad!)If the NC Court of Appeals affirms and upholds Judge Joe’s decision, the ruling stands unless you appeal it to the NC Supreme Court. It is rarer for a custody case to get to the NC Supreme Court, mostly because judges have SO much discretion as to the best interest of the child and the Supreme court can “deny certiorari” which means they decline to hear it. Then you are just stuck with the bad ruling. Appeals can cost a lot of money too, so it’s important to make sure you have a good case for it.
  2. Overturn Judge Joe’s decision (you win dad!)The modification is overturned and the old custody order goes back into place, meaning custody is back with you, dad.
  3. Remand it back to Judge Joe (you….? see below)If the case is “remanded” or “sent back” to the trial court/district court for them to make different findings, the judge might have to hear new evidence or just make new findings. This doesn’t mean Judge Joe has to change custody back to dad. It just means he at least has to come up with different reasons for why mom should have custody, or if he cannot find those reasons, then he may change custody back to dad.

What’s the bottom line?

Lots of people want to appeal when they don’t like the decision. But not everyone can and not everyone should. You have to have the right type of case. You have to start going up the chain, and at any point it can get pushed back down the chain. Your outcome may not be favorable and it may take several years to get there. It’s a roller coaster ride. Take your Dramamine before you hop on board.

How to Preserve Digital Evidence So a NC Judge Will Actually Use It

How to Preserve Digital Evidence So a NC Judge Will Actually Use It

North Carolina trial judges are cautious about digital evidence. Screenshots can be fabricated, modified, or taken out of context. To get digital evidence admitted under North Carolina Rule of Evidence 901 (Authentication), you must establish its authenticity, completeness, and chain of custody.

Raw Screenshot vs. Forensic Capture

Steps for Lawful, Admissible Digital Evidence Preservation

  1. Capture Complete Screenshots with Context: Do not crop out battery bars, network indicators, contact names, dates, or timestamps. Capture the full conversation thread leading up to and following the key statement.
  2. Export Native Files and Metadata: Where possible, export thread logs directly to PDF or native format (e.g., .eml files for email, .vcf or full carrier logs for SMS). Ensure EXIF metadata (embedded time, location, and device data) remains intact on digital photos.
  3. Obtain Certified Carrier Records: Request official call detail records and text message transmission logs from cellular service providers via subpoena or formal discovery requests.
  4. Maintain a Detailed Evidence Log: Record the date, time, device used, and method of capture for every piece of digital evidence preserved.

Digital Capture Methods Matrix: Legality & Admissibility in NC

The following matrix summarizes common methods of capturing digital evidence in North Carolina family law proceedings:

Frequently Asked Questions About Digital Evidence in NC Divorce

Is it legal to screenshot my spouse’s texts in NC?

Yes, it is entirely legal to screenshot text messages sent directly to your device or sent within a group thread that includes you. Because you are a party to the communication, you have lawful access to the messages. To ensure admissibility in court, capture complete conversation threads that display the sender’s phone number or contact header, alongside full date and time stamps.

Can I use Life360 data in a NC custody case?

Yes, Life360 or Apple Find My location data can be used in North Carolina custody cases if the account was established mutually and you accessed the location data legally through your own authorized user profile. Location logs can help corroborate or refute claims regarding travel times, missed custody handoffs, or presence at unapproved locations. However, if you secretly log into your spouse’s private account after separation to track them, that data becomes inadmissible and exposes you to legal sanctions.

Is Ring camera footage admissible in NC family court?

Yes, Ring camera and video doorbell footage is routinely admitted in North Carolina family court to document custody exchanges, property damage, or domestic disturbances. Because outdoor entryways and driveways do not carry an expectation of privacy, footage captured by property-mounted cameras is lawful. To introduce Ring footage in trial, you must provide the raw video file, preserve the embedded metadata, and verify the time and date of the recording.

What happens if I put spyware on my spouse’s phone in NC?

Installing spyware, keyloggers, or hidden tracking software on a spouse’s phone is a crime in North Carolina under the NC Wiretap Act (N.C.G.S. § 15A-287) and Computer Trespass laws (N.C.G.S. § 14-458), as well as federal wiretap statutes. Any evidence obtained through spyware is strictly inadmissible in family court. Furthermore, the spouse who installed the spyware faces potential felony charges, mandatory payment of opposing attorney fees, and severe loss of credibility with the judge in custody and financial rulings.

How do I prove digital evidence is authentic in a North Carolina court?

Under North Carolina Rule of Evidence 901, you prove digital evidence is authentic by demonstrating that the evidence is what you claim it to be. This requires showing a clear chain of custody, providing unedited files containing native metadata, cross-referencing screenshots with official cellular carrier billing statements, or presenting witness testimony from the individual who captured or received the transmission.

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