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Discover 8 Benefits of the Father Visiting the Child(ren)

You might have ended your relationship with your partner for the mutual benefit of both of you but your children will always be yours. Your relationship with your kids does not die with the relationship with your partner.
June 1, 2021

Remember the time when you were excitedly planning for a child. Think about what made you super excited about having a child⁠— the feeling of becoming a father. Now, this child is here with you.

You might no longer be with your partner but you deserve to have an influence in your child’s life and they deserve you.

You might have ended your relationship with your partner for the mutual benefit of both of you but your children will always be yours. Your relationship with your kids does not die with the relationship with your partner. But this tie can only be strengthened and remembered if you keep visiting your child(ren). This way, they will not feel deprived of affection that only a father can express, and you will not feel guilty about being irresponsible.

Stick around to read some super cool benefits of you visiting your child(ren).

1. You will Still have a Loving Family

Your kid(s) are still your family even if you do not live with them. Your regular mindful visits will develop a stronger bond between you and your children. Then no matter where they live, they will always love and respect you.

Time flies! Today we are young and strong, tomorrow we might get feeble. At that stage we require a loving family to be by our side. If you nurture an affectionate bond with your kids now, you will always have a loving family to spend time with at your late age.

Research shows having a loving family improves your overall well-being. So, visiting your child goes in your favor from every angle.

2. You will Get an Emotional Support

You will not run out of emotional support with a loving child(ren) in your life. Both of you can reach out to each other for emotional support. In fact, you will find life-long friends in them. Imagine being able to call your child any time you feel like talking to someone really close.

Studies show having a healthy relationship with your family decreases the level of depressive symptoms. So your visits to your children can improve their and your mental health.

Please avoid talking about your current partner as your kids might not appreciate it. You will not want a surprise shift of emotions in them. You know what I mean?

3. Your Kids Will Not Know You as a Bad Guy

Most of the time, children spend their entire lives thinking their father was some sort of a villain who abandoned them in their childhood. Mostly this happens because the father loses contact with them.

If you keep visiting your children, they will see you as a loving father even if you were not on good terms with your partner. They will understand your situation and you will be able to cherish your fatherhood.

Enjoy being a good guy in front of your kids. I believe you will love that feeling.

4. Your Self-Esteem will be Improved

High self-esteem is attractive because it makes you feel good about yourself. This feeling reflects from your personality. Isn’t it cool?

Let me tell you how paying quality visits to your child can help you boost your self-confidence. If you develop a respectful relationship with your children through your regular visits, your words will matter more to them. They will reach out to you if they would require help in their lives. This will instill a sense of self-importance in you. This way your self-esteem will get a boost.

Enhanced self-esteem is crucial to succeeding in both personal and professional life. Isn’t it a win-win situation that your kids will stay connected to you and you will be equipped with a complimentary level of self-esteem?

If your kids are attached to you they will not mind laughing at your dad jokes. Don’t tell me that it won’t boost your confidence.

5. Your Child will Perform Better Academically

It feels great if your child is a smart kid at school. As people start thinking that kid has acquired smartness in their genes. I understand it can be a great indirect compliment. You can help them become smart by spending quality time with them. See it is this easy!

Coming to the point: Research shows that kids who have a healthy relationship with their father get good grades at school and do better psychologically.

Let me share some exact statistics with you. Kids with father involvement in their brought-up are:

  • 39% more likely to get straight A’s at school. It is nerdy stuff but it is good.
  • 45% less likely to repeat a grade.
  • 60% less likely to be expelled from school
  • Twice as likely to reach college and get a better livelihood.

6. Your Child will Socialize Better

You can contribute towards making this world a better place by raising children who will act decently in society.

Research shows that children who grow up with father involvement are 80% less likely to spend time in jail. Plus, they are less likely to smoke, get drunk, and use drugs.

Next time you meet a terrible person just remember that you will not let your kids become like them.

7. Your Child will have a Good Mental Health

In this era when teenagers are committing suicide, we can not overlook the importance of having good mental health.

You can have a positive impact on your child’s mental health by paying regular visits. Here comes a claim backed by research: Father’s involvement in early childhood and teenage can stabilize child’s mental health and can prevent them from psychological distress.

Even if you do not see them every day, you can still stay connected with your kids over the phone and on social media.

Note: Kids do not appreciate too many instructions regarding using socials. It was just a sweet reminder.

8. You will have a Good Impact on Future Generations

You can add happiness to the lives of your future generations. Sounds crazy? Let me explain to you how.

According to research, the pattern of quality of father-child relations is likely to pass down across generations. So, if you develop healthy ties with your child(ren) especially your son, this trend can pass down to your generations.

This is a sweet trend you can start by sparing some time more often to meet your children.

Takeaway

Visiting your children is crucial for the mental and social well-being of both the father and the children. Kids do not feel deprived and abandoned and fathers do not live with the guilt of living away from them. In fact, these pleasant regular visits can fill the voids in your heart.

Next time you visit your child(ren), don’t forget to buy them presents they adore, bring them snacks they enjoy, maybe cook a meal together, and spend quality time with them. Leave them with true promises and gather pleasant memories from every meetup.

Let me know why do you think the father should visit his children?

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Janet Gemmell
Practicing law for over 20 years may have caused Janet some gray hairs, but she remains young at heart, probably because she loves what she does. Janet's focus is to work with clients building new lives after relationship turmoil and although it is hard work, she finds it utterly rewarding. Such work and experiences gives Janet a ton of insight and along with her legal knowledge (afterall she is a Board Certified Family Law Specialist) she is able to get to the heart of any legal matter quickly in order to start helping clients find resolutions and to get their lives back on track.

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